2008 graduates: My apologies
If you’re a 2008 high school graduate raised in an American evangelical church, chances are you may have been inadvertently poisoned by those idols which Francis Schaeffer warned us of 40 years ago – personal peace and affluence. Get good grades, go to a good college, get a financially stable job, get married, have 2.5 kids, and live in suburbia, so as to isolate yourself from the reality of poverty and a post-Christian culture. It’s not that any of these things are necessarily bad, but idolatrous Christians tragically nurture kids to live for perverted ideals like “a nice life” rather than the costly priorities of the Kingdom.
With the threat of “flipping burgers,” many Christian parents guilt-manipulate the children God has given them into pursuing safe majors like “business,” instead of what God has laid on your heart – maybe political science, psychology, music, sociology, and so on, because God’s sovereignty is not enough to “fall back on.”
After speaking at a Christian youth conference, a high school senior proudly confessed to me that he wanted to be a lawyer because that would enable him to own a nice house to provide for his family. What a depressing vision. It made me nauseated. In John Piper’s words, that’s a wasted life.
I would like to apologize to any high school senior taught to serve the Christian version of the American Dream. You were created for mission and you were never encouraged. In high school, you were baby sat, entertained, shamed, taught how to be “nice,” kept busy with lots of programs, told not to sin (have sex, watch porn, get drunk, have long hair), and ventured on 10-day missions trip to Jamaica over Christmas. But you were never given a picture for your role in the mission of God to redeem His creation. Your faith has been totally undermined by a Christianity of privatization: you and Jesus. You were given the monastic vision of Christianity as a life of personal piety in isolation, raised to live in the Christian ghetto where it’s safe.
Pursuing the adventure of being “salt and light” is not something you were encouraged to do, especially if that meant sacrificing your personal safety and material comfort. Many of you have been discouraged from sharing your life with non-Christians because it was not modeled for you. This is not the way of Jesus, and for that I apologize. Class of 2008, seek first the Kingdom, not putrid idols like a struggle-free life and upward mobility.

















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So THAT’S who was doing it.
Your apology is accepted, Anthony.
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many Christian parents guilt-manipulate the children God has given them into pursuing safe majors like “business,” instead of what God has laid on your heart – maybe political science, psychology, music, sociology, and so on, because God’s sovereignty is not enough to “fall back on.”
And then we still have to find the dividing line between so-called “full-time Christian service” and pursuing “what God has laid on your heart.” So you’ve always wanted to go into political science. So what? Maybe you just just be a missionary and forget about poli sci.
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I think it is possible that God puts it on some peoples hearts to pay for the missions, needs and service of others in His Kingdom. Just because someone isn’t impovershied does not make them an idol worshipper. Prosperity is not a sin not does it need apology any more so than does poverty.
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Interesting, provocative post.
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This is another one of those “do as I say, don’t do as I do” posts:
After speaking at a Christian youth conference, a high school senior proudly confessed to me that he wanted to be a lawyer because that would enable him to own a nice house to provide for his family. What a depressing vision. It made me nauseated. In John Piper’s words, that’s a wasted life.
Compare that with this post from Bradley’s personal blog. It’s a photo of a really nice suburban house and he says he just bought one like it.
http://snipurl.com/2b3bi
Pretty nice house for a single guy who’s “nauseated” by a kid wanting to own a nice house for his family.
And check the next link, too – he wants a BMW to go with it. As you’ll see, he posts about that a lot. You know, so he has reliable transportation to drive around in and condemn idolatrous Christians given to consumerism.
http://snipurl.com/2b3cv
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Night Train–
There’s no law against having nice houses. I don’t feel Bradley is hypocritical at all for buying one … or wanting a BMW. (I want a Mini Cooper).
It comes down to what we personally must sacrifice for God: whether that is a house, a BMW, a nice job as a lawyer, a degree. On the reverse side, many within the will of God will find that they need a degree or that they’re supposed to be a lawyer or that the mission field is not their calling. Very personal and individual.
Flannery O’Connor (quoted in Desiring God): I do not assume that renunciation always goes with submission or even that renunciation is good in itself. Always we renounce a lesser good for a greater; the opposite is what sin is. The struggle to submit is not a struggle to submit … but a struggle to accept and with passion.
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I appreciate Kimberly’s charitable reading of the article, but Night Train’s links do make it harder to take Bradley seriously.
And really, re-read this paragraph:
So you want to provide a nice house for your family? Ick. Nauseating!
You want to dress your children in clothes, not rags? Oooh, gross!
You’d rather your family not dine on dog food? Blargh!
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Night Train, since you’re not a Christian, you might not be able understand this discussion and I’m not sure why people continue to listen. You are, as usual, totally confused and have missed the point of the post.
As non-Christian, you may not understand that the distinction between having a nice house and having a life characterized by the idolatrous pursuit of a nice house.
So it’s entirely possible to own a Porsche and not be a materialistic or idolatrous.
The point of the seems to be not having “nice things” but living one’s life in the SOLE pursuit of comfort at the expense of Jesus’ teachings.
Why can’t people see that?
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NightTrain, can you define idolatry?
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For anyone interested, “Byron” is actually Anthony Bradley. Replying to your own posts under a false name is called using a “sock puppet”, and most people view it as unethical. I’m not sure why WoW lets Bradley get away with it.
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Does “the distinction between having a nice house and having a life characterized by the idolatrous pursuit of a nice house” really need to be pointed out, and the latter decried?
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What is your basis for stating #10?
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Sawgunner, suffice it to say that I KNOW it’s Bradley. I’m not at liberty to say how I know.
Why don’t you ask WoW to look into if you doubt me?
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We’re called upon to live Godly lives.
That might include full time mission work, it more likely does not. It might include getting some specific degree, it might not.
What precisely we go into (as a career) is not as important as how we go about getting there and being there.
Making a lot of money is not inherently bad. The frequent ‘badness’ of wealth is the commonly associated focus on it and selfishness with it.
Someone has to support all those full time missionaries.
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“After speaking at a Christian youth conference, a high school senior proudly confessed to me that he wanted to be a lawyer because that would enable him to own a nice house to provide for his family. What a depressing vision. It made me nauseated. In John Piper’s words, that’s a wasted life.”
Well, this unsuspecting and immature youth had approximately 30 seconds to impress you with his vision for life and failed. Congratulations on your ability to judge another person!!
I have heard of the impression that Piper left of some Wheaton students; it was equally as uninviting, harsh, and even mean-spirited from the platform. Why would the sutdents warm up to you in person?
Night Train, you are right on!!
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sorry:
“I have heard of the impression that Piper left of some Wheaton students”
impression that Piper left ON some Wheaton students
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I don’t think the criticism of the would-be young lawyer is because he wanted to own a nice house so much as that he would choose his life’s work based on that desire. Having a nice house may or may not be part of God’s plan for one’s life (there are certainly ways to use a nice house for God, especially as a lot of people will more willingly come to a home-based Bible study than visit a church building). But choosing a career should be based on one’s abilities, interests, and aspirations. Letting a desire for money direct one’s path makes it awfully hard to notice how those other factors might suggest a different direction.
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#8: Why can’t people see that?
Because it’s nonesense.
Because it’s saying “I can do this, but if you do the same, you nauseate me.”
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“It’s entirely possible to own a Porsche and not be a materialistic or idolatrous.”
Too bad that doesn’t fit on a bumper sticker.
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Even Jesus had a 9-5 for a while doing woodworking. We are consistantly called to be ready, to be prepared. Anthony’s post even comments on that. A versatile degree like ‘business’ can be applied in a lot of different ways and therefore serves to aid in that preparedness. While I agree that we don’t always prepare young people for the real mission we’re called to as Christians, I disagree with a lot of the connections in the post. I reject the notion that some degrees are more godly or more suited to the collective Christian mission than others. Even underwater basketweaving is valuable – where do you think they got those 12 baskets for the loaves/fishes?
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I’ve read Piper’s stuff and have really liked it. Let’s please not judge him (Post 15) based on what the Wheaton students think of him. I certainly don’t feel compelled to build an opinion of him based on their negative review.
And I recommend Desiring God if you’ve never read it. It makes you think: some people will agree, and some won’t, but I’ve known several Christians I highly respect who had read and learned a great deal from his book.
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“After speaking at a Christian youth conference, a high school senior proudly confessed to me that he wanted to be a lawyer because that would enable him to own a nice house to provide for his family”
“Well, this unsuspecting and immature youth had approximately 30 seconds to impress you with his vision for life and failed.”
Actually as constructed, the first quoted sentence has the high school senior speaking at the youth conference. If its writer understands that his dependent clause modifies the subject and not the indirect object, and meant what he wrote, he presumably had much more than 30 seconds in which to evaluate the student.
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Yeah (Post 7)–
It’s a balance. It’s ridiculous to say you’re not Christian enough if you’re not dressing your children in rags or feeding them dog food. Any self-respecting Christian man should want to take care of his family (incidentally, being a lawyer allows him to do that.)
But it’s a little sad if a nice home is the end-all goal of life. There’s more to life than living in a nice home with a nice family, and I think that’s what the article–and Piper!–are trying to get across.
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Ken 22:
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My point is that anyone can theologically entertain their target audience through books. The Wheaton student who recently commented to me is a long-term friend of our family and I value the student’s in-person reading of the man. He came as impersonal, arrogant and unfeeling. He was a turn-off. But, this is often the trade-off in certain religious and non-religious settings. “You love PART of what I am saying…you must endure the rest…it proves your faithfulness to me, or the God I claim to represent.”
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We are so in love with logic, that we think that if someone can be eloquent with words, that means they are godly and have great character.
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Jack said, “While I agree that we don’t always prepare young people for the real mission we’re called to as Christians, I disagree with a lot of the connections in the post. I reject the notion that some degrees are more godly or more suited to the collective Christian mission than others.”
Jack GREAT points. I couldn’t agree with you more. There are lots of frustrated college students trying to figure this out as well.
I was sent this message by a, then, college student when I published a similar apology to high school guys back in 2006. He writes:
Lots of good stuff to consider. . .I would recommend Piper’s book, Don’t Waste Your Life, be given to any high school student as well.
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Reg #25 –
While I cannot account for your friend’s impression, from my own experience of hearing Piper preach for the past 6 years (and longer, if you want to count when I was a kid), I have never found sufficient reason to label him as impersonal, arrogant, or unfeeling. Controversial, blunt, and often in-your-face – yes. But not arrogant.
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JBH,
well, you came close enough with your description of him. Thanks for letting us in on it. And if you used actual details of what was said, it would be more telling, I am sure.
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Quotes in #27, wow. Heavy stuff!
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Thank you, Mr. Bradley.
Whenever I pay close attention to my parents and our family budget, I never fail to be amazed at how we scrape by. As a family of seven on a single income, Dad’s check is often spent before it arrives. Sometimes that makes me worry. Because it seems like life would be so much easier without a constant concern about finances. And that makes me think that perhaps I should abandon my foolish notions of doing big things for God. It certainly isn’t very pragmatic.
But our family always has everything we need and more. God always provides. Always. It’s little reminders like this that encourage me to keep chasing what is not always practical. Everyone dreams different things…but in the midst of them, it is important to remember that God is not obligated to give us physical safety or material wealth or even what we consider the most basic of needs.
My best friend, Emily, is living in Kenya where she sleeps in filth, lives where she is still only learning the language, and experiences poverty day after day…yet she is the happiest I have ever seen her. She is living out the Creator’s call for her life. And sometimes that means being uncomfortable.
Lewis calls us, “half-hearted creatures” who are “far too easily pleased.” My God is a big God who still answers big requests and big dreams when I am willing to step out of my security. He is not safe, but He IS good.
I needed to hear this today
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Whenever I pay close attention to my parents and our family budget, I never fail to be amazed at how we scrape by. As a family of seven on a single income, Dad’s check is often spent before it arrives. Sometimes that makes me worry. Because it seems like life would be so much easier without a constant concern about finances. And that makes me think that perhaps I should abandon my foolish notions of doing big things for God.
Don’t do that!
Why doesn’t your family just move in with Bradley? He’s got plenty of room. And he’s all about “sacrificing material comfort”
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C’mon guys. Bradley is apologising to these kids, not criticizing them. He’s saddened that the church they’ve been raised in is a mere shadow of the one that turned the world upside-down two millenia ago.
It’s not about having or not having. It’s about the “Seek first” factor: “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” It’s an affront to God to say that seeking him automatically means a life of penury. He can provide quite nicely, thank you. The issue is whether we pusue the dead end of “gaining the whole world” or go for the life-giving and life-sharing adventure of seeking him and his kingdom. A goal of “personal peace and affluence” is a tragedy when God offers so much more to those who trust in him.
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C’mon guys. Bradley is apologising to these kids, not criticizing them.
Maybe you should learn to read. Saying that a kid “nauseates” him is not an apology.
And his “apology” is nothing of the kind. It’s simply disguised attack on others. Bradley’s always offering up these lame “apologies” for others, which is what he thinks is a cute way of attacking others. I guess you’ve never noticed that all of his “apologies” are merely attacks on others. He never apologized for his own actions.
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Make that “he never apologizeS for his own actions”.
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You’re absolutely right Anthony. Positively Biblical. I remember Paul writing something about how feet smell and we should all be eyeballs, or something like that. Didn’t I?
Those missionaries don’t need any money for plane tickets and Bibles and stuff. Jehovah Gyra. God provides.
Silly Paul. taking up collections for those poor churches. They obviously weren’t praying right. Creflo Dollar told me so.
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