The death of “wise custom”
This weekend, I was invited to a discussion hosted by a new organization called St. Anselm’s Institute, where we had the pleasure of fellowship and the consideration of an article titled “The Power of Wise Custom” by Thomas Howard, the older Catholic brother to Elisabeth Elliot, with whom some of you may be familiar. In his article, Howard extols the virtues of ritual and ceremony over the destructive worship of more modern approaches to worship and behavior:
Two words cast a pall over the imagination of those who have grown up since 1960—during this 40 years, that is, when spontaneity, naturalness, creativity, sincerity, and what we might call the visceral, have been so earnestly extolled. The two words are ritual and ceremony.
Spirits wither straightaway. “Dull!” we hear from one corner. “Repressive!” from another. “An imposition! A straitjacket!” we hear from various quarters. “What we want is freedom to be ourselves—our natural, real, unconstrained selves. Ritual and ceremony are guaranteed to stifle all vitality and genuineness. They are a recipe for ennui.”
He goes on to explain the power of ritual and ceremony, how its artifice introduces us to deeper things than spontaneity ever could, and how even the most democratic and egalitarian of us still want some things to be accoutred with pomp and ceremony, like funerals for instance. As Howard reminds us, we don’t just dump the body in a dumpster. We demand ritual to make sense of the matter.
But then he goes on to complain about the relaxed way people dress these days. I’ve got no problem bemoaning the exposure of excess flesh, but I’m particularly delighted that men no longer have to wear neckties whither we go: to lunch, to the cinema, to the drugstore, and so on. So how do you feel about high ceremony and ritual in worship, and in life, and in the apparent decline of it in American society and religion?




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Of course, the reaction to modern American worship, with its kazoos and skateboards, is to extol tradition and ceremony. But, at bottom, that’s no better. At bottom, it’s based on preference. A positive side-effect of the (Scripturally-based, IMO) Regulative Principle is that it removes preference from an area where it is not Scripturally allowed.
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When a woman at church said something about me never wearing a suit to church, I told her that I couldn’t wear my lawyer clothes to church (I added “well, if we had a hooker going to church here, we wouldn’t want her coming in her fishnet stockings and micro-mini skirt, would we? why would we want a lawyer wearing his whoring outfit?”).
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Actually, the children of the 60s and 70s didn’t want to throw out rituals, they just didn’t want their parents. So they either developed their own or they became fascinated with Eastern religions, mysticism or the spiritual aspect of yoga.
A note about air travel. A few weeks back I was at the airport picking up my niece from Minnipolis. Her flight had been delayed and had arrived after two flights from northern Europe and Asia. As I waited I realized the American passengers had yet to check through customs since the passengers I saw coming out of the gate were skinny and extremely well dressed. About 30 minutes I knew passengers from her flight were clearing customs and coming through the gate; slightly overweight adults with baggy shorts and t-shirts riddled with logos.
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And liberals keep telling us they’re not elitists!
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How about the Olympic rituals, the lighting of the torch, playing the National Anthem of the gold medal winner, passing the Olympic flag from the current host to the next, extinguishing the torch.
Strikes me as being ways to savor the moment.
Another use of ritual is habitual repetition. I have a morning ritual of getting up, showering, shaving, and getting dressed. Because I do it the same way every morning, I don’t have to think about it, which is a good thing, since I’m not a morning person.
Christian ritual should not be such a mindless activity, though.
It is my experience, having been raised Catholic and abandoning it and exploring agnosticism/atheism/new agism/etceterism before becoming a Christian, that Catholic ritual was a substitute for knowledge and reasoning. However, now that I am a believer (having acquired the knowledge and reasoning from a non-Catholic Bible study group), the occasional wedding or funeral Mass I attend is comfortable in its familiarity, affirmations of the Christian faith, and worship of the Lord.
The ritual at the Protestant church I attend is not that different: greeting friends before the service, the opening song, the welcome and invitation to greet the people around me, more song, the sermon, final song, talking with people afterward. A difference is that these people are diligent to study the Bible themselves, as the Bereans in Acts 17:11, “receiving the word with all readiness of heart, but searching the Scriptures daily to see whether these things were so.”
I’m delighted to see my fellow believers; how they’re dressed is insignificant.
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Of course, “ritual” is always in the eye(s) of the beholder. I’m betting the ritual that Howard pines for would be decried by those of an earlier century as too modern and relaxed.
The fact is, rituals have always undergone moderation and change.
I think there will always be ritual as long as humans exist. The rituals may be different, but they will be there.
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Unless it’s necessary, the fewer things the better in church, I say.
HRW, that would be somewhat of a generalization that you seem to be pointing out. Many Americans are not overweight, but with the higher standard of living and more affluence in the US than other countries, lots of people become “less than fit.”
“Baggy shorts and shirts riddled with logos” are not bad per se (unless the logos are obscene, etc.), but although we have the freedom of expression and individualism here in America, I think that people should try to make a good appearance. However, if they choose not to, what they wear is their choice and should not be dictated by the government or other people. Of course there are certain exceptions to this, as you all likely know. It’s not good to “judge a book by its cover,” but with people, the appearances they present, and the clothes they wear, many times it’s the first (sometimes the only) thing that can be seen an gives a good or bad impression.
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Correction of typo:
“and gives a good or bad impression.”
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#6 – Anlir – It’s good to see the old Anlir back!
In my own spiritual journey, I was raised in a liberal denomination (which shall remain nameless) and married into the Lutheran Church (Misouri Synod). At the time that did not mean a whole lot to me. At the time, both my husband and I were living the lives of prodigals. I made my way back to church first, which caused no small tempest in our marriage, but that story is for a different day.
My journey back was by way of the non-denominational general Protestant arm of the military chapel system. Having been exposed to just about every protestant denomination in the military system over the years (Methodist, Baptist, Pentecostal, Unitarian Universalist, ELCA and LCMS Lutherans, to name a few off the top of my head), at first I embraced the freer forms of the less liturgical worship.
Upon my return, I also embraced more seriously my growing faith and the practice of it. As I have grown in my faith, I have found myself gravitating more and more toward liturgical and ritualistic forms of worship. I find it to be for me, more grounded, and a tangible tie to other brothers and sisters in Christ as well as to those saints of the past who have since gone on to glory in the Lord, and the ones yet to be born. I find comfort in the rituals, yet I chafe when they become the be all and the end all.
Just as faith must have works, but works are no substitute for faith; so the spirit must also have the law. Too much of the “spiritual” and you’re blown about by evvery wind of doctrine. Too much law and you have no grace – the letter kills. I prefer both and I daresay that I am one of the few Charismatic Misouri Synod Lutherans whom I know of. A rare bird indeed. I know of only one other, and it is not my husband.
The rituals keep me connected, but I do so love the fresh breeze of the the Holy Spirit. It is hard to find both in one place. Stained glass windows don’t usually open.
May I also recommend a good book, Beyond Smells and Bells, The Wonder and Power of Christian Liturgy by Mark Galli.
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Humans are creatures of habit. Look at the unofficial assigned seating that happens whenever the same group of people is meeting together repeatedly. Ritual is not wrong and neither is lack of ritual. Rituals change over time (usually very slowly unless some “rebel” wants to stir things up). The problem I have with rituals in church is the attitude that develops that this is the only way to “do church” and anything else is heresy. Living in a different culture as I do forces me to evaluate my “church” expectations. Is this Biblical or is it American? My father was a pastor who often strove to shake things up a little. He got frustrated by the “We don’t do it like that” crowd.
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KRM – And what did the lady say to that?
HRW – I have to say that I agree that people should “dress up” a little more in public. I’m “only” 47, but I remember when we dressed up a bit (or a lot) to go out to eat or to go to the airport.
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Karen O – She really didn’t have any response (but she hasn’t given me any of her goofy attitude or criticism since).
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#4, 7, 11
My observations was not meant to criticize Americans but simply to agree with the author’s complaint about the decline in standards, which I’m also guilty. Its also true, to a certain extent, in Canada. If I’m elitist so is the author. I can frequently sight a recent immigrant to Canada by their clothes even before they speak and reveal an Eastern European accent — most North Americans don’t dress well when grocery shopping. Being married to a Pole has weighted my awareness to this difference.
The increase in overweight is not due to more wealth especially considering its the poor that are overweight. Its the cheap processed food filled with glucose-fructose that no European would eat on a regular basis that causes the inceased weight.
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