Have we lost the art of discussing politics in polite company? According to a poll conducted by VitalSmarts, we have. The survey reveals that 77 percent of people now shy away from political discussion while 10 percent avoid it all costs.

“This is a tragedy for democracy,” says Joseph Grenny, coauthor of Crucial Conversations. “Our founding fathers believed spirited public discourse was the crucible of democratic decision-making. And here we have evidence that dialogue has all but ceased. The result is a public whose opinions are rarely tested and challenged.”

Grenny believes that people are pulling back from talking politics because they don’t feel safe broaching the subject: “These discussions quickly turn from casual conversation into personal attacks on people’s values and interests.”

But Grenny thinks it is possible to have political discussions that are both candid and respectful, and he offers a few tips:

  1. Look for areas of agreement. Let the other person know you share common goals, even if your preferred tactics for achieving them differ.
  2. Avoid personal attacks. While you don’t have to agree with the other person’s view, you can still acknowledge their view is valid, rather than “idiotic” or “evil.”
  3. Focus on facts and be tentative. Consider the source of your facts, and ask the other person to do the same. Ask two questions: Could the facts be biased? Could they be interpreted differently?
  4. Look for signs of disagreement. If the other person grows quiet or starts to become defensive, reinforce your respect and remind him or her of the broader purpose you both share.

As we head toward Election Day, the political discourse here at WorldMagBlog will no doubt get even more heated than it has been—and it’s been pretty hot. I challenge you all—no matter on which side of the political divide you fall—to take Grenny’s advice to heart and help make WMB an exception to the rule, where people with a wide range of views can feel safe and respected in candidly discussing the issues of the day.

HT: My old friend Professor B.B. Cue, who’d rather argue about how to properly cook a pork shoulder than to pontificate on politics any day.