Comments on: Marriage 911

By: davidinportangeles

davidinportangeles — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:30:07 +0000

to Megan: excellent article, and a very apt warning to any of us who are tempted to become complacent in this area.

To Reg: there seems to be a lot of bitterness between the lines of your comments. I truly hope that I am wrong about that, or that if I am right, that you are able to find healing in forgiveness. Regarding comments #10-12, whether Gov. Sanford’s repentance is genuine isn’t for any of us to decide; that’s between him, his wife, and God.

And to Karen O, I agree, and I know first-hand that God can restore a marriage after infidelity (whether actual or virtual)

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By: Karen O

Karen O — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:21:42 +0000

I guess then that it takes time, maybe including a separation, to determine if the seemingly-repentant man truly is repentant. I know many men (& women) are not repentant about adultery, but there are some who truly do respond to the Holy Spirit’s conviction & turn their lives around.

I’ve read, & heard, some wonderful testimonies about what God can do in a marriage.

It is tragic when one spouse rejects God’s call & His word, & betrays his/her spouse through adultery or unforgiveness.

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:11:21 +0000

we should assume nothing about the future based on a man’s words when his actions have proven otherwise

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:56:35 +0000

SAYING SORRY and LIVING SORRY are not the same thing

SAYING FORGIVENESS and LIVING FORGIVENESS are not the same thing

We should assume nothing

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:45:16 +0000

We are far too quick to assume, as are many wives, that a man who says he is sorry truly IS sorry and has truly changed!!

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By: Karen O

Karen O — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:53:05 +0000

Reg – If the adulterous husband truly repents (is not merely sorry he was caught), & the wife is willing to forgive, wouldn’t it be good for them to stay together?

BTW, did you see my response to you on the Frank Schaeffer thread (& repeated on another thread)? The intent of my first comment to you was not as you took it, & I felt quite bad about inadvertently offending you.

In case you didn’t see it, this is what I wrote…

Reg – My goodness! That was not my intent at all!

I find you an interesting & sensitive person, & often your brief comments pique my curiosity (as in – What does she mean? Where is she “coming from” with that?).

Unfortunately, you often don’t engage in deeper “conversation” here, or instead of explaining your position, you refer to a book. (I did finally read Pagan Christianity just so I could understand what your various, almost cryptic comments were about.)

My above comment to you was not intended as a put-down, but as an observation. We are all products of our experiences, & often those experiences can bias us on certain issues.

I am truly sorry if my comment offended you – it was truly not intended the way you took it.

If it is your wish, I will not engage with you anymore on this blog. But that would be too bad, because in replying to one another we here on WMB often have a chance to either help someone see things from our own perspective, or to learn about other perspectives.

When I respond to you, I am trying to engage you in “conversation”, not merely disagree. But again, I am sorry if I have ever offended you. Twas surely not my intent.

(For those who have read this for the 3rd time, please excuse me. It’s just that I felt really bad that Reg misunderstood a certain comment I’d made, & I want to be sure she knows I did not intend to offend or hurt her.)

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:48:33 +0000

Maybe you can be smug and feel safe in your 13 years of marriage, but there are some women who can never be smug or feel safe in their marriages because their husbands do not live with them as true spouses, they are put away, it is a hatefilled existence (and she knows it) and divorce would be a welcome relief.

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:43:57 +0000

It is a pity that our modern bible translations are incorrect when it comes to the subject of divorce since they do not distinguish putting away from divorce.

We are to be pitied that we do not know the difference between putting away and divorce, and so have to ask a question like, “If the mistress is the soul mate, what is the wife?” Intelligent question, but SAD that we don’t know the answer and assume that a put away wife should STAY with a man like this!!

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By: REG

REG — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 08:36:56 +0000

Biblically speaking, the wife is put away. Malachi 2:16, putting away is the treacherous act that God hates. See the American Standard Version, 1901, for distinction between putting away and divorce. Divorce is something that God prefers to putting away your spouse.

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By: NJLawyer

NJLawyer — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 23:25:24 +0000

This line from the post: “I think that was the saddest thing I’ve read of this whole story. If the mistress is the true soul mate, what was the wife?”

I agree. This must have really hurt and humiliated Mrs. Sanford. It didn’t even come out in the first press conference. Sanford is incredibly selfish. Yet his wife has again said she will forgive him. He doesn’t seem to understand what he’s had all along.

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