Teens, God, and taking the Lord’s name in vain
Every week, my local newspaper runs a small piece called “A Student’s View,” written, as you can probably guess, by a high school student on the topic of his or her choice.
In a recent one, titled “Oh my God,” a Jewish girl wrote protesting her parents’ insistence that she attend synagogue services for the High Holy Days. The author was clearly bright, and the piece was thoughtful and well-written. And having experienced teenage rebellion in various forms firsthand, I pass no judgment on her or her parents. (If anything, I admire them for insisting she attend.)
Making no excuses but raising a good point, she writes, “A majority of my classmates . . . say the Lord’s name in vain all the time. . . .” And it’s not just her classmates. All day, every day, on TV and in movies, in real life and in books, the phrase “Oh my God” is uttered. Hearing that relentlessly, what must young people think? How could it not diminish the meaning behind the name?
It wasn’t always so. I don’t remember hearing the phrase as a child, on TV, or used by my classmates. But it slowly crept into common useage and is now ubiquitous, with its very own texting shorthand, “OMG.”
I sometimes wonder what would happen if school children—or TV characters—en masse started saying “Oh my Allah” instead. I doubt that would be tolerated. But never mind the sensibilities of believing Christians and Jews. And how many of us say it ourselves? How many of us let it slide when others say it? We allow it to happen.
Writing for Touchstone: A Journal of Mere Christianity, S.M. Hutchens describes a scene in C.S. Lewis’s book, Perelandra. The character representing Satan continually calls out the name Ransom, who’s been sent to oppose him. The first few times Ransom hears his name he answers, “What is it?” “Nothing,” comes the reply. This continues until Ransom simply stops responding.
Hutchens writes: “[A]t the heart of this nothing was a denial of the person called upon, an aggressive attempt to negate his being, an attempt to equate him with nothing, an attempt to kill.”
Perhaps that’s the reason behind the Third Commandment.

















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The meaning behind God as used in “Oh my God,” has already lost its meaning for those who say it all the time. Which is part of a larger problem; people don’t think about what they’re saying. Maybe we could make it politically incorrect.
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Yeah, I have more of a problem with that phrase..or taking the Lord’s name in vain, than I do words like the “s” word.
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According to the Jewish scriptures, God’s name is YHVH, not “God.” YHVH is usually pronounced Yahweh, or in the full English rendering, Jehovah.
The New Testament, on the other hand, does refer to the Supreme Being as God (Theos in Greek.)
So is the deity’s name “God?” Or does “god” simply denote a deity, which various people can believe goes by any of a number of names? If so, then Marcia’s “Oh my Allah” is not the equivalent of “Oh my God” (but might be the equivalent of using “Jesus Christ” as a swear.)
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I don’t know if I’m younger than Marcia Segelstein (I’ll be 48 in January), but I did hear the phrase as a child, enough that it became a part of my own vocabulary by the time I was a teen. I have no idea where I typically heard it (not from my parents, I think), but I never thought of it as being a problem until I started attending a different church where people cared about such things.
I had to work consciously on training myself not to use the phrase, and it took quite a while to get out of the habit. It could be that I occasionally use it if I’m surprised enough. (Though I’m fairly certain that the time I kept repeating, “Oh God, oh God” over and over again while our vehicle was skidding and then rolling into a ditch, I meant it as a prayer.)
Last year I noticed my younger son using the phrase. I wince when I hear it, but I’m not sure if it’s more out of concern for God’s name or because I know that the phrase bothers a lot of people. Not that two wrongs make a right, but I’m inclined to think that using the word God to mean God but misrepresenting His character and purposes (e.g. Fred Phelps, or the “health and wealth” gospel) is a more serious matter than saying “Oh my God” to express surprise.
Last night we were playing the Ungame, and in response to the question, “What is something you say a lot?” his answer was “Oh my God.” So I know now he’s aware of it, and I need to plan out how to address it. His teachers have been working with him on taking criticism better, but he is very hard on himself and it’s hard for him to distinguish between himself and his behavior (I don’t know if that’s part of being autistic, or just being ten years old). One thing I have to figure out first is what to teach him to say instead when he is surprised, because it seems we have to have something to say in those situations.
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Conan, that doesn’t answer the question of how Muslims would react if we said , “Oh Allah.” Or do they say that themselves? I don’t know.
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The careless use of Jesus to emphasize a point REALLY bothers me, too.
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I too am uncomfortable with the pervasive use of the OMG phrase and other callous references to God in all His attributes.
However, is it possible that one of the reasons it is so very common is that it is a subconscious recognition of the supremacy of God in our lives. No other being could be called upon to emphasize our responses to the good and bad of life.
It is also a subconscious declaration of His existence and our ultimate accountability to Him.
I don’t yet have a really good response to people. There is no particular value in judging them, but it has sometimes been a little arresting to say “what does God have to do with it?”
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Fisherman, I think OMG is no more meaningful to most people than saying “Wow!” That’s what makes it even more sad.
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It used to bother me when I watched Magnum PI on TV. Higgins had a habit of saying it when he was upset, especially with Magnum. It was at a time when I had just begun to consider just exactly what it meant to take the Lord’s name in vain.
It was also about that time that I started saying, “Good grief!”
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Nana, I don’t know. What I’m saying is that “Oh my God” and “Oh my Allah” are probably not equivalents. But “Jesus Christ!” and “Oh Allah!” would be.
Allah and Jesus Christ are specific names of deities. What I’m getting at is that “God” might or might not be. “Oh my God” could be “Oh my god,” and mean the speaker is referring to the god he worships WITHOUT using a divine name. “My god” is like “My car,” while “Jesus Christ” is like “Ford Taurus.”
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Conan – OMg. Got it.
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Except, Conan, that there actually is only one God, where there are plenty of Ford Taureses and other cars. Scripture told people not to swear by heaven as God’s dwelling place (they were, I believe, allowed to back up oaths with God as witness) and I think that the idea of there “technically” being more than one god is similar. There’s really only one, so when a person talks about “God” without specifying, “I mean the (false) god Yahweh,” when we hear the word “God,” we naturally think of the One who made us.
Anyway, it bothers me. My own parents were sensitive enough to this that “minced oaths” weren’t allowed either (gosh, gee, heck, etc., which yes–look in the dictionary–are substitutes). Except that my dad sometimes said “gee” and that really bothered Mom. I tend to say “Yuck!” or “Oh!” or, humorously, even “Ow!” (I pretty much broke myself of that last one, yelling ow when I’m startled even when nothing is touching or hurting me.)
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So Klako is really saying OMGG..Oh my, good grief?
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Is seem that we, Christian, have lost the reverence of speak God’s Name.
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Except, Conan, that Allah isn’t a specific name like Jesus. It just means God.
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I don’t like it either.
I did find it amusing on Facebook the other day when someone wrote, “Oh, my Buddha!”
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There are Arabic-language equivalents to “Oh my God” — the difference being that the inclusion of Allah’s name is almost a sign of respect, an indication that he is always on the mind of the speaker. Listen to an Arabic-language conversation, or even an English-language conversation between two Muslims, and you will heare insh’allah (”if Allah wishes”) and maash’allah (”what Allah wishes”) tossed out like candy at a Christmas (Holiday?) parade!
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Being that I don’t watch TV, I typically only hear this offensive phrase at family reunions where my husband’s family use it in almost every second sentence. It’s like a slap in the face to me. Using the F-word would be less offensive, than using Yahweh’s Title in its place.
Allah is a specific title, it refers to the crescent moon god that Mohammed chose to represent his mistaken idea of god.
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Cheryl … there is only one god, I agree. But the name of the only god is not “God.” It is, if the Hebrews had it right, YHVH. (Yahweh.)
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Yahweh. Is the holiest name for God for the Jewish People. They believe it is so Holy that they fear to pronounce it. They believe if they pronounce it the wrong way God would kill them. Yahweh means “I am” to the Jewish People. Most Christian Scholars believe that when Jesus was being question at the end, the Jewish Leaders asked Him the question of who He is. An Jesus answer was Yahweh, I am.
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I agree with Pauline (#4) that the phrase was around a generation (or 2 – I’m over 60) ago. However, the restrictions really began to come off in 1964 – remember the Free Speech Movement at UC Berkely? We are now reaping the harvest as public conversation is just generally offensive. But I am happy – and sometimes surprised – when I hear public bus drivers instruct juvenile riders to curb their speech.
But I have observed that it is always the name of Jesus that is used as a swear word – by atheists, muslims, buddhists, jews, etc. And when g-o-d is used in the same way, I have no doubt that it is my Father they are referring to even if subconsciously. It is part of the cultural view that no one should be offended – except Christians. We – and He – are always fair game. And this in my opinion is stark evidence of the Truth of Yahweh as “I am God, and there is no other” (Isaiah 45:22).
And regarding UnseenJoy (#17), the English translations suggest a more devotional speech, much like Christians who pepper their conversations with “if it is the Lord’s will” (James 4:16). Or, for that matter those of us who unthinkingly end each prayer with “in Jesus’ name. Amen.” But I do think these usages are founded on faith and respect, where the OMG’s – and WTF’s – are not.
But what I find most offensive is Christians – professed believers who otherwise are living out their faith – use such unholy and offensive phrases with regularity.
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Thank you for bringing this subject up. I have fought the OMG epidemic for 7 years in the Christian school where I teach. It seems that this year, we have turned a corner. Students are not saying this nearly as often. They shifted, hopefully temporarily, to “Good Lord!” My response–”AMEN! He IS good!”–gets rolled eyes but the satisfactory response of not saying that again in my presence.
I would rather hear my students utter crudities than take the Lord’s name in vain.
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Conan,
That may not be His name. (I think that’s semantics, since that is one thing He is called . . . my father’s given name wasn’t “Dad,” but I’m not sure I’d argue that wasn’t his name, since seven people called him that.) But nevertheless, name or not, it is His identity, and still not to be taken in vain.
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“You shall not misuse the name of the LORD your God, for the LORD will not hold anyone guiltless who misuses his name.” Deut. 5:11
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ConanTheLibrarian
It’s what is in the heart of man when they use the LORD’S name in vain, they know it’s offensive, they know that Christian Believers don’t speak that way.
We identify GOD as GOD the Father and the Son as Christ Jesus – that’s their identity for most English speaking persons. Yes there are those who use Jehovah or Yahweh – We are warned not to take the LORD’s name in vain.
LORD Strongs Greek definition:
Yhovah – yeh-ho-vaw’
(the) self-Existent or Eternal; Jehovah, Jewish national name of God:–Jehovah, the Lord. Compare ‘Yahh’ – ‘Yhovih’
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I taught my children not to use it and they are teaching their children as well. I have noticed the increase of its usage on television, along with a lot of profanity that was once off limits. Vulgarity also. Sad to me.
It is actually noticable on “Extreme Home Makeover” when it isn’t used. Otherwise, it is used over and over again as if no other words could possible fit the situation.
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None of our children took God’s name in vain more than once
We believe the name is holy.
But I have a dilemna that perhaps someone could help me with. In our congregation we have a lady that is secretary. She is very touchy about any kind of correction for a better term. She uses the Lord’s name in vain every other word. I doubt the elders have talked with her about it. Any suggestions about exactly how to gently talk to her about it? Hubby is the minister and she isnt crazy about him so it would not go over well from him.
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Jiller,
She knows that it is offensive and sinful – It is wrong when we as Believers allow someone to behave this way without saying a word.
You say “Hubby is the minister and she isnt crazy about him so it would not go over well from him.” – Of course she isn’t crazy about him, ….. there’s more going on with this woman, you’ve just begun to scratch the surface. Has she been attending the church long? Does she use the LORD’S Name in vain in front of young people and children?
Your husband should go to the Elders and request something be done. That is their job.
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Ki
I’ve noticed the same thing. There was one show where everyone in the family said “oh my goodness” – and it was OBVIOUS –
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Thorn – “So Klako is really saying OMGG..Oh my, good grief?”
Nah – I just ditch the “Oh my…” altogether.
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Like so many other things people have gotten desensitized to this too.
I wonder if people started using their friends and/or kids first names in times of exasperation. For example, if a friend named Dan constantly said OMG, you could start using phrases like,”That thing is a piece of Dan.” Or, “He’s talking out of his Dan.” Etc.
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On reflection, I think Cheryl is right in #23.
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I don’t like the phrase OMG. I do think it is crossing the line, even though it is His title, and not His name.
However, I’ve never bought into the “replacement words” as being wrong. Firstly, because most people aren’t aware of it until someone “helpfully” points it out. Secondly, because they are NOT God’s name or God’s title, so I don’t have a problem with them.
That being said, though, we had some neighborhood kids who used to say, “Oh my word!” (which just sounded adorable out of a five year old.)
My mother says, “Corn Fritter!” but don’t ask me where she got it.
And, of course, there is “Heavens to Betsy!” and “Goodness gracious!” and “Oh, my Heavens!” or “Oh, my stars!”
And, the real old standby for surprise, “Well, I’ll be a monkey’s uncle!” LOL
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If God is imaginary, as It probably is, people getting upset about using Its name, is an example of how the more trivial something is, the more people obsess with it and the more easily they become offended by perceived disrespect.
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“‘[A]t the heart of this nothing was a denial of the person called upon, an aggressive attempt to negate his being, an attempt to equate him with nothing, an attempt to kill.’”
Oh my Obama…
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Ok, ok, seriously though.
I say “Oh my gosh” or “Good heaven.” I feel dirty and furious if I let the Lord’s name slip in vain.
I have once or twice said, (because text speak is fun to drop in conversations, lol), OMG, but in my head I mean “Oh my gosh.” I did realize that other people wouldn’t know that, though, so I stopped.
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The best response: “Who is your God? Tell me about him!” Always good for a fun conversation…
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The Creator of the universe isn’t trivial Random Name.
On a lighter note, my son’s neurologist was thrilled to know that when my son blurts out words during his Tourette’s episodes – he never curses or blasphemes – he hasn’t ever heard that to repeat it!
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#38
Must be a miracle. However, I hope that things go well for your son in spite of his Tourette’s.
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Thanks Random Name, actually, he is totally unaware of his Tourette’s, so it doesn’t bother him at all. He has been improving in speech the past few weeks which is such a joy.
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I’m going to regret this because I pledged to myself that I’d never respond to or about Random Name again, but when he jerks my chain — and he certainly seems to know how — by trivializing my Lord calling Him an “it,” (ref #34) I can’t restrain myself. His first phrase, “If God is imaginary…” renders everything that follows shallow foolishness. It’s like saying, “If two plus two equals nine, then Afghanistan is a model of democracy.” An impossible (or ridiculous) premise cannot lead to a credible conclusion.
God doesn’t need my help to defend Himself, and for reasons of His own He allows silly prattle and utter blasphemies to continue. Maybe He wants His children to declare themselves?
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Allen – 41
Below is a passage of Scripture which I believe FITS!
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A larger issue regarding using the Lord’s name in vain seldom receives any attention, yet it is more centrally the target of the commandment than a simple reference without due reverence.
Claiming God’s imprimatur when it is not given, invoking His authority to support what He does not support, attaching His name as the author and champion of our own sinful choices, is truly using His name in vain. Although the failure to honor God as holy in our references to Him falls under the proscription of the commandment, its practical outworking in our claims about His activity is the graver sin and needs the more serious self reflection and attention.
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ken, excellent.
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one of my co-workers exclaimed Jesus Christ when there was an incident at work and I looked around, acting surprised and asked, Where? She just looked at me funny and asked me what I was talking about. I answered….oh, I thought you saw someone. She got the point.
I do the same thing when they say, OMG…but it drives me nuts when Christians say it and think nothing of it.
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OMG has fallen out of usage among my 16 year old niece and her friends, not for religious reasons, but because the boys her age find it annoying.
It has been replaced by “A-WO!!!” said with one or both hands raised to shoulder height. I have video of 4 of them doing this by the beach every time a crab or plover went by. (The plovers wisely headed for parts unknown, but the crabs paused, claws clicking, to elict more A-WOs punctuated by screamy giggles and a sort of hysterical dance.) Can’t wait to splice it into her wedding DVD.
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Thanks for lots of interesting comments on
The 3rd commandment in Hebrew is really a positive, not a negative. It is, Always bear my Name on high.
Like, unfurl my Name like a banner or flag in a stiff breeze.
We have Jesus’ version of it in the Lord’s prayer:
HALLOWED OR HOLY BE YOUR NAME.
Paul has several versions of it:
I Corinthians 10:31, Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the GLORY of God. See Eph.5:19-20, Col.3:15-17.
The 3rd commandment is the “missionary commandment”:
Exodus 9:16-17, Pharoah, I had chosen you to take my NAME to the nations. But you refused, so now let my people Israel go to do it.
My paraphrase.
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#41
Maybe if you took off your chain, it would not be so easy to jerk.
Seriously, I do not know if God exists or not. As far as I can tell, if He does, He chooses not to make his presence clear to many people. Many of the people who seem to be sure of His presence disagree sharply on His nature, commands, directions, and instructions.
Over history, many people have killed and tortured each other in the name of God. As far as I can tell, most of those inflicting harm thought they were acting in the name of God and fulfilling His wishes.
If their is a God, I don’t know why he would have a gender or sexual identity. You may regard it as a casual atheist insult on my part for me to refer to God as “It,” but this is as much a part of my agnostic skepticism as any Catholic’s or Protestant’s or Orthodox’s or Mormon’s or Hindu’s or Muslim’s or Buddhist’s idea of God. Frankly, Buddhism (as much as I can make sense of it) seems to be pretty close to regarding a deity as an “It” as anything else. However, although Buddhism has a reputation of being peaceful, their are lots of historical reports of bloody and oppressing Buddhists.
Worldmagblog doesn’t seem to have much idea why it exists. Mostly, it’s a “social network” where people “chat” over the “back fence.” Nothing wrong with that, but it makes me wonder what is wrong with your church. My neighbors are active and devoted members of their church, and it seems to provide them with a great deal of their social networking needs.
We had our neighbors over for dinner the other night and had a pleasant time. They don’t seem to have a need to “convert” us, and we don’t feel a need to “de-convert” them. I hang out a bit volunteering at their church with their “wood ministry.” I may start teaching AARP senior driver safety classes at their church.
I don’t feel a need to insult their belief. They don’t seem to feel a need to insult my homosexual friends. I am just fascinated by how you are sure you (most people at wmb) represent the core of Christianity and represent the core of goodness and represent the core of political righteousness and at the same time feel that you are oppressed and persecuted by those who disagree with you about religion and politics.
You never can decide if you are on top or on the bottom.
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My wife has a tendency in casual conversation to say, “Oh, God,” not meaning any harm. I have never seen our Christian neighbors flinch or look distressed, but I said to my wife (when we were alone), “Some Christians do not like to hear ‘God’ used as a casual expression, and it may bother our friends.”
She grumbled a bit, but then last night she was very careful not to say that during the dinner conversation, as she proudly said to me after they went home.
One of the characteristics of worldmagblog is that many of you are always looking for reasons such as this to be offended, but are very little concerned about offending others, because, after all, you know what God wants and what He considers right and wrong and correct and incorrect.
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Hi Random.
To your #48 – I’m sure most of us are quite involved in our churches, & are satisfied & blessed by our involvements.
But let’s face it, during much of their week, people are busy with work & family. WMB is a fun/interesting supplement, but not a substitute, for our other relationships.
To #49 – I do not like it when I hear these phrases, but I realize most people don’t know that they’re being offensive in any way. So I keep quiet about it, & don’t judge them.
I suppose if I worked with someone who did this a lot, I would at first try to use humor as a way to point out to them what they’re saying.
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I used to have a co-worker who was an atheist but was generally respectful of people’s religious views. (We had some very interesting discussions on the topic.) One day another co-worker became upset and left the room but didn’t explain why. Since I had been there and heard the conversation, I pointed out to her that he was a Christian (taking seminary classes part-time to become a missionary, as a matter of fact) and was most likely offended by her use of Christ’s name as an exclamation. She had not been aware of doing so, and was grateful to me for pointing it out, as she normally made a practice of not using such language in front of people who would be offended.
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Just for the record, “Allah” is no more the name for a particular god than “God” is. I’m not sure where the “moon god” idea came from. Arabic Christians were using “Allah” to refer to the Christian God several centuries before Mohammed was even born!
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#53: Similarly, Yahweh was the tribal god of the Hebrews, believed to be on a par with Baal, Chemosh and other gods of other tribes. It wasn’t until late in the Old Testament era that the belief emerged that Yahweh was the only deity.
Not many Christians want to accept that Yahweh was already being worshiped as a tribal God before the belief in only one God for all Creation emerged. Some Christians become angry when confronted with this fact. But history is not on their side. Their own Bible has proved this.
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